Monday, May 3, 2010

6 Home is where you make it

After only four days of the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit), we have quickly come to realize that for the immediate future, this place is our family's home. It doesn't have lace, smocking or Teddy Bears, in fact it has wires, needles and alarms- but it also has our baby girls, and for that alone it is our home.




The girls get their own 'crib' much like they would at home, but they don't get kisses and hugs. The incubators basically are meant to recreate the mothers womb, even down to the humidity levels.




Adeline, our first born, has been the slightly smaller of the two. She initially struggled more than Maralee did. To increase her lung activity the doctors decided to introduce her body to caffeine. Shortly after, Adeline's lung began to flutter and she was actually creating short and quick breaths. Now these are not the ideal long and slow breaths needed to be self sustaining but they are breaths none the less.




For the rest of the day, Maralee struggled to keep up with Adeline. Eventually the doctors gave Maralee the caffeine as well but she still seemed to lag behind Adeline. At this point the doctors believed that Adeline might be able to be removed from the ventilator and just have oxygen provided to her through the CPAP. It was at this moment that our first act of sibling competition decided to show itself. Maralee decided to pull her own ventilation tube out and begin breathing on her own. She couldn't let her older sister get the best of her at this early in life.




With that said both the girls are currently off the ventilators, which is such a miracle to even write! Now before we get too excited, know that they will have to go back on them at some point because they can't sustain themselves yet, but I would certainly call this an improvement. It is certainly a high point on this roller coaster we are about to ride for the next eight weeks. Christen has been battling a little bit of a fever, but generally, she is healing really well. Thank you for the overflow of prayers and support. Your words are more than just text on the internet- they truly do lift up our spirits and renew our faith!



On a side note, I have my 6th of 7 registration exams this Friday. Of course my perfectly planned testing schedule has hit a bit of speed bump given the course life has taken this past week. I could use some prayers in this department too. I'm not asking for the Lord to pass me, I am asking that he will give me the strength study even though I desperately want to sleep and also the ability to focus on the task at hand even in the midst of such a life changing moment. With that said, off I go to study.

- Raleigh

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Sunday, May 2, 2010

So for everyone that feels like they missed an episode, don't worry we do too! Now that I can think straight let me take a moment to go into a little more detail of what exactly happened on April 30th.

It all started Thursday night around 9pm. Christen began having cramps that hurt but didn't seem worse than a period cramp. The doctor had said at the last visit that the cramps would become stronger and more frequent, so again, it didn't really concern us at the moment They persisted through the night though, so we immediately called the doctor Friday morning. He said to time the cramps, and if she had more than four an hour to come in for a checkup. Well, she had about seven so we immediately went into OB Triage. Literally as soon as Christen got on the table, the nurse said, "You're fully dilated, we're going to deliver these babies now!"

Yeah, at 27 weeks, that will hit you like a train. Within the next hour Christen was under the knife and two tiniest babies I have ever seen entered this world.

Adeline came at 9:40 at 2 lbs and 13 3/4 inches. Maralee followed at 9:42 weighing 2 lbs 1 oz and 14 inches long.

Neither of the girls cried when they were born. It's a silence that I have never experienced before - to go through it twice is not an easy thing. Their lungs are not developed yet so it's impossible for them to cry at the moment. I did get to see the girls delivered but Christen never saw them because the were immediately put into the incubators and rushed to the NICU.

The hours that surrounded this moment involved the truest and most desperate prayers our still new family has ever been part of. The NICU doctor came out and informed us that things were not good, but they could be worse. Up until this moment I had done a great job of being a 'man' but when he said this, I would be lying if I didn't say that my knees buckled a little and felt a great need to sit down. But of course I held strong for Christen's sake.

The day ended on a positive note as I got to wheel Christen into the NICU to see our girls for the first time. We aren't going to be able to touch them for a few days, but we will take anything we can get at the moment.

We love you all as you continue to give us the thing we need most. Prayer.

- Raleigh
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Saturday, May 1, 2010

Yesterday was quite a whirlwind of a day. Christen unexpectedly delivered the babies yesterday morning. Yes, this was quite a shock to us too! Christen seems to be doing really well this morning and the babies are okay considering they are 28 weeks today. We will fill everyone in with all the details later but I did want to update everyone in case you hadn't heard yet. We have a long road ahead of us and it will take lots of prayer!

The girls are both about two pounds and fourteen inches long. They are hooked up to a ventilator because they're lungs haven't fully developed yet. The doctor says the first big milestone is to get them breathing on their own. So you can specifically pray for that. Thank you all, it is so amazing to see all of Christ followers support in a time like this. It's very difficult to get good photos of the girls in the incubators, but here is the best i could do on my phone.









As Christen would say...

Til next time, let your light shine!

- Raleigh
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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

0 A True "Shower"

As mentioned in the previous post, this past weekend Raleigh and I headed up to Birmingham for a wedding.  While we were all in town, our sweet friends decided to give us a baby shower too!  It truly was a shower...complete with rain, thunderstorms, and gusty winds!  Even though the weather was blue, we were showered with pink!!!!!



The Bartlett's, McAllister's, Price's, and Gray's
Thank you SO MUCH sweet friends for hosting this shower for us!!!!

We got some really great gifts at this shower.  Mackenzie hand-made the girls these bibs!  Our other friend Corinne, also stitched the girls two beautiful blankets.  I just love crafty people and can't wait to use these gifts!  Maybe I can be as crafty as these ladies one day :)


We got a package from Santa....I mean Sarah :)


Sarah gave the girls the rain forest bathtub.  Raleigh is really looking forward to bath time with the girls...I can't wait to put them in the soft bath robes afterward...they are just too darn cute! 


Our friend Lu gave us a first aid kit for the girls and one for Raleigh! Inside of Raleigh's kit were gloves for dirty diapers, earplugs, and some other handy items.  It was really cute and funny :) 


Patrick and Keely gave us a diaper genie 2 and accessories.  We have been told that twins go through at least 150 diapers a WEEK!!!!!  That genie better work! :)  


Two of my college roomies, Laura and Mary Shaffer
One thing I love about parties is the chance to see old friends...it was so great to catch up with these two ladies!!!!


Some of Raleigh's studio friends....he spent many days and nights with this group in good ole Dudley Hall!  It really was so much fun for us to catch up with old friends.  

"  How I thank God for you"
- II Timothy 1:3
Till next time, let your light shine!
Blessings, christen
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Monday, April 26, 2010

0 Simply Put

Let's be honest...who doesn't love a wedding?

Some cynics out there might have protests to the enjoyment of this ceremony due to the fact that they have to get dressed up, don't have a date, or it makes them realize that they are yet to be married, but all of those reasons aside, I still find it hard to believe that everyone doesn't have at least one part of a wedding that they love.  Whether it is catching up with old friends, enjoying some tasty cake, or breaking it down to "Shout" everyone has some part of the wedding that warms their hearts.

To me, it is knowing now what I only hoped for on my wedding day.  I hoped that my life with Raleigh would grow with love each and every day.  Our love started out so small, so innocent, so youthful.  In college, it grew to trust and understanding.  With that foundation established came commitment and faith in believing that what we shared was real.  We grew to believe that our love could last for a lifetime and we wanted to share our lives together.  Our wedding day was a day filled with joy and hope for the future.  We were ready to commit our lives to one another because we knew that two were better than one. 

This past Saturday, we attended a wedding in Birmingham of two friends that were in architecture school with Raleigh.  As the doors opened, I couldn't help but smile as I saw the radiant bride walking down the aisle. The whole wedding was really beautiful and very stylish  but my favorite part of it was the scripture reading.  They picked out scripture from 1 John 4: 7-12 and it just really touched my heart.  It reads:

Dear friends,
Let us love one another, for love comes from God.  Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.  Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.  This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.  This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.  Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.  No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

As I sat in my pew seat listening to those words, I thought about how honest and true that statement of faith was in my life - in our lives.  It makes love sound so simple yet somehow we end up making it such a difficult thing.  If we simply believe that God is love and that we should love one another then emotions of conflict, anger, hurt, and fear would come at a much slower pace.  When these feelings wound our souls, it is easy for love not to last.  But when we realize that our love is not about us, it is about God's love for us, we learn that we always have his love and it never goes away.  This is how a marriage is built.  This is how it stays together.

Friends, there are times when I really don't like my husband.  My tongue becomes loose and my patience is quick and soon enough hurtful words slip out of my mouth.  We can easily be so mean to one another and cause pain to invade our souls.  When this happens, we are encompassed with loneliness and feel like we aren't loved by anyone.  But if we realize that we have God's love then we are living in Him, not in our worldly selves.  His love strips away pain, his love heals all wounds, and his love is what is real.  When we have his love in our marriages, the covenant that we make on our wedding day will stay bound for a lifetime.  Our days become filled with simple acts of love.  We still falter and stumble but we learn to forgive and accept the faults in our partners because we aren't perfect.  God allowed us to be human when he sacrificed his son for us on the cross.

I love the part at the end, "No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us."   God, our wonderful Creator, does so much for us that we don't even realize.  His love for us is so deep and pure that we can't even fully comprehend him until we meet in heaven.  I might not physically see God, but I intimately feel God every day.  I feel God because I am loved and I love others.  God is my husband kissing me goodnight.  God is my daughters kicking me while I write.  God is my mom who holds my hand when I am scared.  God is love and these people are examples of Him in my life.  My life is complete simply for the fact that I have found His love.  I don't have to search for perfection or pass a great test, I am simply "loved because he first loved us."

Brothers and sisters, we have to live our lives according to this simple truth.  We have to believe that we are capable of receiving love and even more so willing to give love.  In order for us to believe these things, we have to first love and accept ourselves. We are worthy to love because God loves us.  When this fact is realized, we recognize the truth...the uncontainable truth that God is love and it is our mission to share his love with others.  When this happens, we can't help but love our lives because our hearts are bursting with his love for us. 



It is that simple.

"God is love.  Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. (1 John 4:16)"

Till next time, let your light shine!

Blessings, christen
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Thursday, April 22, 2010

0 Idol Gives Back

Hey friends,

Did any of y'all watch Idol Gives Back last night?  I am a BIG AI fan and really enjoyed the show.  This year, I am thinking either Crystal or Lee has a chance at winning the title.  Who do y'all think will win?

Anyways, one of my favorite clips on the show was from David Cook's trip to Ethiopia.  He seems like a really sincere guy to me and it was really moving to see his interaction with the young girls in that village.  My heart just goes out to those girls; even more so now that I know I have two little girls on the way.  I just can't imagine having to grow up in a community that is so big on prostitution.  It is so sad to me that some girls feel like that is their only chance at making it in the world and for those men to take advantage of them like they do.  I am really glad that a show that is so mainstream focuses on these type of issues because it really does create awareness.  When people are aware, they want to help.  With help comes change. 

Below is the David Cook clip if you didn't get to watch it last night.  Enjoy!



Till next time, let your light shine!

Blessings, christen
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Tuesday, April 20, 2010

1 So Far, So Good

 
Hola! I have been in a Mexican kick lately :)  Who doesn't love chips and salsa?  Ole preggo here does!  I hope everyone is staying dry today...it is a rainy day here in the Gump.  This morning Raleigh and I had our 26 week check-up and I am happy to say everyone is doing great!  I had to drink the glucola orange soda (which really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be) to get the diabetes test and we had another ultrasound.  I would post the pictures but the girls are getting so big that they can't really get a great shot of them.  Both of the girls are facing head down so the doctor is hoping that they stay that way.  We haven't decided yet if we are going to do a C-section or deliver vaginally but all I know is the less pain the better!  Any advice on delivering twins is much appreciated right now!  I am starting to get to that point where I am realizing that D-day really is coming soon.  Scaredy cat by nature, I am a little frightened of what to expect but I know the end result is going to be worth every ounce of discomfort I might feel.  Still feeling a little scared though........

Both girls are almost at 2 pounds and have strong, steady heartbeats so that is such a relief.  Hearing the heartbeat is Raleigh's favorite part.  It is that comfort of knowing that they really are doing okay, you know?  I have to say, I too have grown in size since our last visit.  I know it is part of being pregnant but I have never seen that number on the scale before!  Our doctor also told me that I am getting into the "rapid growth stage" so that means the pounds are only going to increase from this point on!  Some days I really do feel large and in-charge but so far it hasn't bothered me.  This month has probably been the most enjoyable because I am finally on a routine with medicine so I'm not getting sick.  April is such a beautiful month down south so I have been able to get outside more and enjoy all the flowers, green grass, and sunshine.  I just love being outdoors...it makes me feel so much better and brighter.

I know y'all have seen pictures of me throughout the pregnancy, but I thought I would post some for you to see our progression.  The first few I am so pale...it is funny looking back on those because it was during the winter and I also felt awful so I look so sickly!  Oh well, just part of it I guess.  Anyways, hope you enjoy!


16 weeks

18 weeks

20 weeks

25 weeks

Till next time, let your light shine!

Blessings, christen

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